I reject silence because silence is not for me.
Silence is for the criminal in hand cuffs who has something to hide.
Silence is for Charlie Chaplain who danced with the world that laughed with him.
Silence is for the adulterer who hangs her head in shame for stealing the life of another.
Silence is for the Buddhist monk in meditation who empties his heart and mind by choice.
Silence is for the lambs as they wait to be slaughtered.
Silence is for the dead.
Silence was not for my friend Jemma's mother who screamed and clung to the coffin as her daughter was lowered into the grave.
Silence was not for my mother who wailed with the cry of an animal I had never before heard when she learned of her mother's death.
Silence is not for the angry who take to the streets in protest for the deaths of innocents.
Silence is not for those who feel cheated and seek to reclaim what was lost.
Silence is not for the heartbroken.
I want the world to know how I cry for my lost baby.
Silence is not for me.
I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts go out to you and Jeff.
ReplyDeleteReacting to a loss is very personal and people react in different ways. Some people like to talk. Others like to be more private. The important thing is that you move through your emotions in a way that is healthy for your recovery. Stay hopeful, and once you have healed physically, please continue to have hope, and faith in your body. I know that after a miscarriage you can feel as though your body has failed you. You can feel disconnected. My prayers are with you.
ReplyDeleteObviously, silence is always an option in any social setting, but I am grateful to women who speak out and let me know I'm not alone. And I'm particularly grateful to the Darci Klein's and N. West Moss's of this world who are demanding better social and scientific understanding of miscarriages by speaking out and educating others.
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http://www.preventpregnancyloss.org/about.htm
What beautiful words to a tragic loss. I know one day the poetry will reflect abundance and life. Retain your hope and your desire to speak, as I really believe it will help move you through this painful time.
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